I must admit that I watch a horrible show, my guilty pleasure, my chick flick, my awful addiction. I know I will be judged accordingly, but I should hope that the point of this post will administer to your hearts instead of judgement on my love for all things cheesy. I watched this last season of the Bachelorette. Every Monday night I would have my cheetah print chair plopped in front of the TV and become a part of this woman's journey to find her "true love." I screamed, I awed, I even got teary at some points. (I know, if you aren't judging me yet, you can now....) This woman goes on amazing dates around the world with wonderful men who ALL think she is the bee's knees; it's meant to bring "true love" to the contestant at the end of the season. Why am I telling you my unhealthy addiction? Because I met a woman in the grocery store a few days ago who had the "Bachelorette" mindset.
Bachelorette Mindset- currently waiting for, not only a man, but the "Disney dream" of once you have the man (or woman) that everything will be rainbows and butterflies for the rest of one's life.
Ice cream in hand, mascara running down her face, limping slightly in her high heels, the signs were all there. I was in line with my nectarines and she came up behind me. I turned slightly and smiled at her. She flipped her hair, began to say something then stopped. I thought she might be talking to me so I asked her if she was. She said, "No... but, you agree men are stupid right?!" Surprised, I was about to speak up, but she continued. "You know, he said he loved me. I've had everything ready and planned. I am ready to be married ya know?!" It's my turn to pay at the cash but I cant stop but say, "I'm really sorry," in an awkward hushed voice. She goes on. "I put my life on hold. I'm an idiot. Everyone else has a guy." I was still kinda shocked even after listening to her.
I was still thinking of this woman when I was heading home... There was something wrong with what she said. I mean, I think there is nothing wrong with her being upset, because anyone who has ever been broken up with knows that it is never a easy thing to move on. However, I began to really think while I walked home. She said she had her life on hold. Don't we all do this? We have our life on hold for the man/woman of our dreams, for the promotion, for whatever we feel we need to be truly happy? Why are we waiting for these things that might never come to us? If that hurts your feelings I am sorry, but not really... I just don't want any of us (me included) to have the same time at the grocery store as the lady I met. We shouldn't be planning our lives so that we are in the state of waiting for the next step. Indeed, there are times when our lives have lulls, but I hope you understand what I'm saying when I say; that we need to make sure that our life is not a waiting game. No person should wake up in the morning and be bummed that their life isn't going the way it should, but rather use the time now to make it glorious.
Here are some questions that might help someone get out of that "life on hold" shenanigans! (If I sound like Oprah, I am sorry..)
1.What do I do in my day that helps someone else? (Phil. 2:4)
2.What am I doing today to make myself better? (1 John 2:6)
3.What is one thing I am proud of that I am doing with my life now? (2 Timothy 3:17)
Let us not live in the "happily ever after" attitude! But rather, be excited about today! What good will it do anyone if we are living in the future when there are so many things now that one can learn, create, inspire, and love on other people? I for one refuse to not be present in my life now and stop planning the "next step". Lets have the right mindset together, shall we? :) Our figures will love us so much more if we aren't running to the ice cream isle when "the plan" hasn't gone as we had hoped. ;)
We can still have our guilty pleasures sometimes, as long as they don't become our "hopeful realities".
Your hippy,
Summer
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